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How to Prepare for a Dating?

Dating is perceived by many people to be a game, and if it is so, then a game must have rules for it to work appropriately. These rules will have to be studied, learned and followed.

To have a successful date as a man or woman, you will have to increase your confidence level. And with certainty, nothing can be achieved without trying. If you keep saying you don’t feel so great about yourself and never leave the house, then no one is going to come to you, except you use an internet dating service.

Whether you are new to the dating arena, or re-entering it, you need dating tips, advice and rules. When it comes to matters of the heart, even the most beautiful and wealthy people all struggle. The truth is that there is no magic formula to having a successful date. There is however essential facts that people should bear in mind. You should also realise that a tactic you used successfully might not work for other people. It all depends on individual situation, who you are and where you are in your life.

Whatever the situation might be, there are some tips that are universally accepted and if used appropriately, can benefit anyone practicing them. These tips should be backed with rules outlining what to do and not to do when dating.

5 Key Dating Tips

• Are you looking for a short-term or long-term relationship? You must take some time and think very carefully what you want to gain from dating before you get involved.
• Are you confident with yourself? You must put your act together to look your best with confidence before the date.
• Are you prepared for the date? Preparing for the date is a must if you want to succeed in the dating game. Go shopping and treat yourself to a new look.
• Do you enjoy dating? You must enjoy dating for what it is, dating. And meeting people you have never met to socialize and spend time with, that company must be one that is stimulating and refreshing.
• Do you realize that dating is a game? You got to know that dating is a game full of mystery and enigma and the thrill of it is the chase that people like when dating. Never ever make yourself too available. The longer the chasing is made and fall within reason, the more likely that love may blossom.

Positive Dating Rules

• Look your best and be punctual on the day of your date.
• Enjoy yourself on the date while realising that finding your soul mate is serious business.
• Share insights and listen to what your date is telling you, what they like to do, read and so forth. Be interested and interesting and do not forget to ask questions.
• Always be ready to compliment your date on how he or she looks. It is nice to appreciate the effort put into getting ready for a date.

Negative Dating rules

• Never lie to your date about any aspect of your life. It might not be cool telling your date a truth about your embarrassing past, but it might be awful to ruin a potentially life-changing relationship with a perfect match.
• Do not date the kind who have hurt you in the past and make you feel bad about yourself. Know that finding a true soul mate is not dependent on looks alone; it is heavily reliant on what comes from the heart of that person you are dating.
• Don’t be rude on your date or get drunk. Know that courtesy and good manners will get you everywhere.
• Don’t compromise your personal safety whatever the case may be.

It is unlikely to hear anyone say that dating is easy, especially the first dates which are awkward. The second dates are expectant and the ones that follow make two people to really get down to business of knowing each other. And during these times the two people dating might have made countless dating mistakes, mostly without realizing they are doing it. Bad dating behaviour is an affliction, and it is always advisable to obtain some common sense advice before a date. So I hope you’re convinced, why lose out on a date when you don’t have to.

Dating Tips and Techniques for Single People

The online dating industry for singles is booming and scores and scores of lonely single men and women are signing up to dating websites each week looking for new dates, friends dating and in many cases just to improve their social life.

Furthermore over the last few years with the advent of social media and new mobile platforms online dating for singles has become far more versatile and accessible. For example did you know that the majority of popular dating web sites are now fully compatible with the latest smart phones and tablets?

These exciting technological changes and advances revolutionise friends dating and the way singles from all walks of life can interact with new people or dates that they meet via a singles web site. So in light of these changes and improvements let us examine in detail how we may utilise a number of proven dating tips and techniques to be more successful at friends dating.

Proven Online Dating Techniques for Friends Dating

Dating web sites, whatever the niche tend to fall into a number of service categories; they are either running empty with few members or are overgrown with so many single member profiles that it makes choosing a prospective partner exceedingly difficult indeed.

To make matters far worse some dating web sites are full of out dated member profiles that either haven’t logged in for months (or years) or offer minimal information, no pictures and hardly any text. Remember that your singles profile on a friends dating web site is your opportunity to sell yourself to other interested singles looking to find a date near you.

Build a Proper Singles Dating Profile – The Most Important Technique for Singles Looking for Love

One of the best techniques that you can employ to be successful at Internet dating is to ensure that your member profile is bursting with useful information. Use photos and video to expand your description and spend time on the text, describe your likes and dislikes, your personality and what kind of single friend or date you hope to meet.

The majority of mainstream online dating web sites will offer this basic dating feature on their web site so be certain to take advantage of profile building to boost your presence. A well thought out member profile is one of the most imortant steps that you can take to become successful at online dating, meet new people and friends and ultimately find the relationship you desire and deserve.

Treat Friends, Other Singles and Potential Dates With Respect

Treat other singles looking for love and romance with respect at all times, the whole dating online experience can enable people with false sense of bravado, after all it is easy to feel more confident than normal in your own home when hidden behind the privacy of a personal computer.

Never make assumptions about people who you have never met and always be polite when talking to other singles. Do not divulge personal information to strangers, remember that a person that you are chatting to on a dating web site may not be all what they say they are; is their profile and picture real, do they really live where they say that they do? These are all questions you should be thinking when you are forming the early stages of a relationship.

Ensure Your First Date is a Safe Dating Experience – Meet New Singles in a Public Place

Singles date all over the country in major cities such as London, Manchester, Bristol, Birmingham and Liverpool, never arrange to meet a new date for the first time somewhere that you do not feel safe. Public places are always safest. Most people are who they say that they are but you can never be to careful when meeting new people for the first time.

The Best Places to Visit for Friends Dating

Until you know more about a person that you have met on a singles web site consider meeting people who you find attractive in a bar or restaurant, just go for a morning coffee or for a walk in a public place. Your goal is to relax and to allow your companion the chance to relax also. For a real date to have potential you need to be able to talk freely without inhibition.

Younger singles may prefer a pub or cocktail bar, older singles perhaps a more relaxed venue. If your first date goes well consider taking trips to the cinema, theatre or even some short city breaks. Be sure to read the following free tips on friends dating and further ideas on where to go on a first date.

Success With Women – Success With Men in Any Singles Niche

These advanced dating techniques will work in almost any dating niche, there are so many after all. Popular dating niches include Christian dating, uniform dating, single friends dating, disabled dating, single with kids, single parent dating and senior and mature dating for example.

These proven dating techniques will certainly get you noticed, remember that other singles typically want exciting dates that offer good engaging conversation, a relaxed friendly environment and a chance to get to know the other person properly.

Whether you are looking for a single man or for a single woman just follow these absolute dating techniques for an improved chance of relationship success or visit the SingleMe web site for more top romantic tips for single men and women looking for love and new friends.

Why Dating Downward Can Be Dangerous

Are you dating people that you cannot afford to be with? I don’t just mean fiscally, I mean mentally, emotionally, socially, educationally, spiritually and or economically. When you choose someone new to date, are you on an equal playing field?

Dating on an unequal playing field is a source of frustration and can become out-and-out upsetting. I have coined the phrase “Downward dating.” Downward facing dog is a traditional yoga pose that Stretches and strengthens the whole body while relaxing the mind. Unlike downward dating which only eats away at your sanity and puts you in a pile of confusion. In the end, you wind up blaming yourself for the relationships demise. As with many of life’s choices there is no one to blame and many lessons to learn.

The way your dates treat you and the opportunities that come your way are determined by your attitude, energy and your sense of self. Often times, it feels good to blame others, but you know intuitively that it is not right. One of the only things you can possibly get from downward dating is some instant physical satisfaction which is often very nice but that lasts for about a good sixty seconds. However, you’re not making the kinds of connection that you desire. You are not getting the emotional connection you desire, so you’re left upset, angry and frustrated.

I have heard dating described as a gladiator sport. It is not for the faint of heart. Dating will test you and can shred every ounce of confidence you have or wreck havoc on your self image. While dating, whatever insecurities you are dealing with will surface and leave you not even recognizing yourself.

Do you experience yourself and realize that you are you dating the same physical type of man/woman over and over again. Do you have a physical type, i.e. tall, blonde, bald, hulking, etc. and are not interested in leaving that type behind? In the past, I have been guilty of dating like that. Thus not making room for anyone else to enter my sphere and all the while, still looking for a different response and treatment. Duh! However, are you not ready to leave your type behind but still want something different? Do you want and or are you interested in stopping this kind of behavior? Do you want a different results?

Before you go out on another single date start, looking at what you don’t like about your dating habits. Start by asking yourself about what you’re experiencing; see if it is a reflection of how you treat yourself. If you cannot change or are not ready to date, you are doomed to continue creating more of the same dating situation. This can be said for any situation that does not work for you anymore. It you want to date differently, you have to start giving yourself something first. If you want to date better people, you have to become a better person. If you want to be respected, you have to give respect to yourself and then to others, if you want to improve the quality of your dates you have to improve the quality of yourself. Start by asking questions “What can I contribute to my dates?” What you receive from any dating situation will transform when you accept yourself.

It is unfortunate but most of the recipients of downward dating love the idea of dating you. They love what you do, what you have but they subconsciously are frightened that you may not be interested in them. They are subconsciously don’t like what you are, as you represent all that they are not and this dredge’s up their insecurity. Downward dating people derive pleasure from you because it gives them an opportunity to inflate their already timorous ego.

They love what you represent, that you have an education and the social accoutrements or any other accolades whether earned, learned or born with. They love that you have your own money which is oftentimes, more than theirs. On the other hand, with downward dating there is no dedication. It’s just bragging which could later be at your mental expense and discredit.

Some downward dating partners are only capable of trying to break you down. The relationship is lop-sided. Your partner can become spiteful, downright nasty and mean spirited. Downward daters are for the most part only really interested in themselves and making you wrong. Their level of insecurity is very high. The experience of downward dating is one of insecurity and belief that internally that they don’t deserve something.

Downward daters will continual ask questions that you can’t answer in the way they want. “Why are you really interested in me” Duh, you’re interested in them because you like them. They cannot believe that and are extremely adamant that you’re not being truthful. They make statements like that you’re trying to use them They do not hear or listen to what is being said in a conversation. They only hear their internal conversation and make up things that were not being said or experienced.

Downward dater is not based in reality. Downward dates and daters come in all shapes and sizes color and crude. This incessant dialogue is very dysfunctional. This is when you leave the interaction (Run now!)

Many people have downward dated at some point in their life. Even if you can fake amnesia and plead the 5th you’ve done it.

Here is my experience in downward dating:

I dated a man with less money then me. I knew upfront that he could not afford to attend a lot of the things that I invited him to, so I would foot the bill if I really wanted to go. I didn’t have a problem with sharing, but when my sharing became a problem, the relationship become uncomfortable. His ego, was getting a little roughed up about not having extra play money. I did not do it deliberately. If I was digging down into my savings or spending above my means, I would say something.

Unfortunately, my guy had not mastered this concept, he had difficulty expressing his feelings about my money. Our relationship became increasingly difficult and it became progressively more difficult having certain conversations. So he proceeded to make me wrong. Eventually we broke up.

Today my opinion is if your venturing into a situation like this,you’re probably setting yourself up for failure. Work with me here, you have spent a number of years building up your education and that education has increased your socio economic standing only to find that you are not dating on an level playing field. You have little in common with them and furthermore they resent you for it. It is important to date with clarity. It takes time to get to know the people. It is also important that you give yourself time to get to know the people you’re interacting with and that you do not compromise your spirit.

I know many men and woman complain that they are sad and that they feel alone. Theoretically, we are all. Even in a relationship, amongst family, friends or in a group, we can feel alone. Alone, is a feeling, not our truth. The key is to accepting being alone is checking whether this is true for you. Then choosing what you want to do with what you know. Rejecting your findings that you are alone will not only make you feel better about being alone, it will prevent you from jumping into relationships that do not support your energy and what you are up to in your life. It is healthy to look at yourself with a critical yet compassionate eye so that you can make the decisions that only you can and will say are right for you. If you let lonely choose for you, you’ll be in a relationship that will have you whirling and not in a good way.

You Know All About Online Dating?

Today Online Dating is more popular than ever. But do you really know all the different variations out there? Here’s a fun A- Z guide that reflects modern trends in 2013. There are the many different forms of ‘Dating’ on the web. How many do you recognise?

A – App – Usually mobile-based on Android or i-phone. App stands for application and this form uses G.P.S technology to facilitate match-making between singles.

B – B.B.W – Stands for Big Beautiful Woman and refers to men who wish to date them and the women who amply fulfill the desired category.

C – Christian – Wide-ranging dating niche covering all Christian religions.

D – Dominatrix – Extreme adult theme-based dating which involves erotic encounters between singles that are interested in B.D.S.M. (Bondage etc.,) Popular with some politicians.

E stands for E-Dating, another term that generally defines online dating. Yet, it could also include social networks or apps rather than orthodox online dating.

F – Friends-with-Benefits – refers to people who wish to date friends of the opposite sex with the occasional erotic encounter. Remember the movie?

G –Gay – Self- explanatory term for dating with Transgender/ transsexual niche included.

H – Herpes – Yes, it does exist and is very common. Crikey. Refers to people who have recovered and wish to date a partner who has gone through a similar experience.

I – In-Person – refers to real life face-to-face encounters between single people after an agreement has been made to meet after or during online dating communication.Yes, like the good old way! ( n.b safety considerations are a major issue so be careful. )

J – Jewish – Dating between singles of the Jewish faith. Shalom.

K – Kinky – An adult-based theme for single people who may have a sexual fetish or have sexual tastes beyond the norm. Get out those boots.

L – Location-based – using G.P.S technology (Global Positioning System) this dating allows singles to base their dating encounters on the location of their prospective partners and ‘hook-up’.

M – Mature – refers to a dating niche for singles over forty and is similar to Senior Dating.

N – N.S.A – stands for No-Strings-Attached – and is similar to Friends with Benefits. This type of dating refers to casual sexual encounters that may or may not lead to a continuing arrangement between consenting couples but not necessarily lead to friendships or a long term relationship.

O – Online Dating that uses modern technology to facilitate meetings between people who may or may not be single. App based or website based.

P – Plenty of Fish – dating site referred to as p.o.f.

Q – Quiz – A dating idea based online that mixes Speed Dating with a pub quiz style format. Put your mobiles away please.

R – Religious – A dating niche that attempts to bring singles together of a shared faith.

S – Speed – Like Quiz Dating this is event based but mainly arranged online these days. The idea has been around long before online dating took off in a big way.

T – Tinder – an ios dating app that allows individuals within a 50 mile radius to meet up via Facebook networks.

U – Uniform – a very popular niche driven form of dating where professional people who wear uniforms for a living – like firemen or sexy traffic wardens – who then arrange to meet each other for a hot date.

V – Virtual – combines online dating with online gaming. Involves the use of Avatars for people to interact in a virtual venue such as a virtual café. Take the blue pill.

W – White Label Dating– Dating platform for many online dating sites. Its success depends on partnerships with mainly branded sites.

X – XXX Dating – Adult dating of a more extreme nature. Not for the fainthearted. Usually consists of pornographic imagery for online marketing.

Y – You Tube was originally an online dating idea did you know? Now, it broadcasts online dating videos and a mixture of general tips, adverts, advice from professional dating coaches and, of course, hilarious spoofs.

Z – Zoosk – refers to the online dating site.

Online Dating for a Bad First Date

A bad date is a place you don’t want to be. It’s no one’s fault, yet no matter how well you seem to get on online, you can easily find yourself in a public place with a stranger having a real struggle with simple conversation. What should you do?

You have 3 options open to you if you find yourself on a date which is not going well. By bad date I am referring to a mediocre level bad date where awkward silence and stilted conversation ensues, not the type of bad date you need to run away from. You can either –

1) cut the date short and go home
2) stick it out, but not see them again
3) give it another chance, another time.

There’s no need to throw your possessions and yourself out of a restroom window if the conversation does not flow as you had hoped. There’s a lot of pressure on people on a first date and it can be difficult to be yourself. It’s not unlike a job interview, in many ways.

If the first date is not a roaring success, should you agree to another? Daters are very strictly in one camp or the other over this one. Some hardened daters are adamant that if there is no instant and deep connection, you should throw in the dating towel immediately. I am in the camp that believes that you might need a few dates to get to know one another.

Think of your current best friend, for example. I bet when you first met, you might not have imagined that they would one day be your best friend. You need more than one pop at getting to know someone – a date shouldn’t be like an exam.

If you don’t want to give it another go and meet your date again, send a polite and sugary message including:

– a big thank you for taking the time to meet you
– tell them that they are great, but you don’t feel you are suited
– wish them all the best of luck for the future and say thanks again

If your date is rude or lewd, you don’t need to sit politely through this one. If your date is rude or you feel unsafe in their company, you can cut the date short. Excuses include, I feel ill. That should do it. An elaborate plan that involves your mobile phone and an emergency is not necessary. Afflictions that are sudden and common include; headache, toothache, tummy ache, nausea.

You can bounce back from a bad dating experience. Laetitia, 32 from Brighton discovered this after a series of bad dates including suggestible sexual proposals on a first date, and another who left mid-way through dinner. Hang on, it may have been the same chap on two different dates. Bless Laetitia for giving him another go.

You can’t prepare for a date like the chap above. Laetitia just put it behind her and persevered with dating, eventually meeting her current partner 8 dates later. Laetitia advises to try and not to take a bad experience too personally, and to carry on dating regardless;

“A bad date can be nothing to do with you at all so try not to feel to dejected. Sometimes you just don’t know what the other person has got going on in their lives. Essentially, dating is a numbers game.”

To avoid a bad date in the first place, you are best to hold on meeting in person until you are completely satisfied that your prospective date’s profile is a true reflection of who they really are, pictures and all.

Just like a can of baked beans, we all have to sell ourselves. There is however, a big difference between showing off your best side and pretending to be a can of meat balls.

If your prospective date claims to be a 30 year old Engineer with a cat called Tiddles, then you want to make absolutely sure that you will be putting on your best frock/man attire to meet a feline loving, tinkler of engines. Nothing but the truth will do.

Seriously, people can be candid with the truth in their profiles. They don’t need to, but they do. I dated one chap who claimed to have a cat but didn’t. Puzzling, but true.

According to The Guardian, 4.7 million people are dating online and in a recent survey, 1 in 3 admitted to lying in their dating profile. 1 in 3 makes for a large potential number of porky pies to uncover. Over one million, to be exact.

The most common areas for mistruths, according to statistics, are different for men and women. Men are tempted to lie about age, height and income whereas women opt for misleading information about their weight, physical build and age. The porkies to look out for include, but are not limited to –

– weight, height, age
– profession
– qualifications
– out of date photos

Nobody is really worried about dating someone a little shorter, older or stockier – we all just want to meet someone we can have a life-time of fun with, and fancy a bit too. Lying before you have even yet met is not only unattractive, it does not bode well for the future. Check out the things important to you tactfully through your online conversations; ask for titbits about jobs and hobbies and find out the stories behind the profile photos. Make sure you too are not stretching the truth, it could lead to being in a pickle further on down the line. Most importantly, make sure you have the potential to get on.

Dating can be expensive in terms of time, money and crushed hopes. It make sense for your purse and your heart to whittle out the potentially mismatched dates early on.

Dating success can be yours – just keep going. In the face of a bad date, keep your chin up, enjoy talking to someone shiny and new and then carry on dating.

A nice cake and avoiding a bad date – it’s all in the preparation

– find out how long your potential date has been online dating. Some are addicted to dating. You don’t want to be another short term fix.

– always online? Bad sign. How can they fit in that exciting life if they are always logged in? It also suggests they might be dating lots and lots of people, which for some is OK, but not for the thin-skinned. According to statistics, 53% of people surveyed admitted to dating two people simultaneously, so be prepared.

– texting a lot? Texting only proves that someone has a phone and digits. Take texting lightly, it’s not a heavy commitment to text and someone who is seriously into you will give you a call instead.

– having said that, limit your contact before you meet. Find out enough to establish that you might get on but don’t overdo the pre-meet chat. You don’t want to establish a big text connection and then meet up and find you don’t get on in 3D. Tricky.

– if you do meet, suggest a date in a coffee shop in the day time. In a cafe, you can happily leave after a 30 minute chat over a tea and a muffin, and that’s completely OK. In a pub you might feel you owe them the whole evening and you risk drunken misjudgment.

The way to A More Exciting First Date and What Men Should Know

Dating should be fun but for most people, first dates make them anxious maybe because they want everything to be perfect. A terrible first date could ruin your chance of creating a wonderful relationship with your date and so you want everything to be perfect to have a great start. First dates can be stressful if you do not know what to do. The following tips can be very helpful if you want a more enjoyable first date.

How to prepare for your first date?

To make a more enjoyable first date, you have to do your homework and know some basic details about your date. It would be too awkward if you happen to ask the wrong questions. Focus on your date and prepare on how to make her comfortable on your first date. Some men do practice their lines before their first date and there is nothing wrong if you will do the same. Turning the focus on your date can help you forget your nervousness and you’ll eventually become more at ease.

To create a more enjoyable first date, avoid Friday night date to avoid the pressure. Keep the date short to be more considerate of each other. If you or your date can’t feel any connection, keeping the date short will save you both of the awkwardness. Keeping the date short doesn’t mean you have to be rude if there is no spark on your first date. Treat every first date as an opportunity to expand your network of friends. Who knows, your date might offer to introduce you to her friend who could be a better fit for you. Be a gentleman and treat every first date with good manners. If there is a connection and you are both attracted to each other, keeping the first date short means there is something to look forward to, which is your second date. The anticipation for the next date can be very interesting for both of you.

Be punctual on your first date or call if something came up and you cannot make it on time. It is important that you make her feel that you respect her time and remember that being considerate or respectful of your date makes you more attractive.

What to wear on your first date?

The clothes you wear on your first date affects the level of your attractiveness. Dress sharp and look your best on your first date. Most women love to go out with a guy who dress well but this does not mean you have to spend a fortune for your new wardrobe. Wear something presentable, clean and appropriate for your date. Wear clothes that flatter your best physical features and minimize your less attractive features. Of course to have a more enjoyable first date, you also have to be comfortable and confident wearing your outfit because you do not want to feel tense or uncomfortable with your outfit while on a date.

Experts recommend that men should stick to dark-colored pair of jeans, long sleeve collared shirt with slight patterns or not too loud patterns and with loose tie. For a casual look, a nice polo shirt and sports jacket are another option. Tucking in your shirt makes you appear clean and presentable. Avoid wearing khakis which makes you look like going to a workplace than a date. Avoid loud prints and stripes if you want to look good and impress your date. Choosing loud colors can be distracting, if you want to stand out, choose the colors that are most likely to attract women like white, black, grey, blue and green. Colors like cobalt blue and maroon can be attractive too. Flashy clothing or accessories are not appropriate for a date because it will draw the attention away from you.

Of course do not overlook your hygiene. Pay attention to your footwear, have your shoes polished to make them look clean and wear the appropriate socks. Put attention to your hair, your fingernails and nose hairs. If ever you end up wearing the wrong outfit on your date, relax and just be yourself and enjoy the moment with your date.

Where to go on your first date?

Most people choose to spend their first dates on places where they can dine or sit opposite each other to talk and know each other better but the problem with this setting is that the date may become more of an interview than a date. Meeting for the first time on this kind of setting can be too formal and you both may find it difficult to come up with subjects to talk about that may lead to long silence or awkwardness.

To have a more enjoyable first date, it is best to include enjoyable activities that you can do together like attending a cooking class, painting class, country fair, bowling, biking, ice skating, karaoke, etc. or visit places where there are many things that you both can look at and talk about like museums, zoos, theme parks, underground aquariums, botanical gardens etc. A walk in the mall or shopping for small things is also a good way to spend your first date and get to know each other better. Talking while doing things together is not only enjoyable but it creates new experiences and memories. As much as possible avoid concerts, plays and movies on your first date. Dates should allow you to talk, interact and connect with each other and it is hard to accomplish that if the environment is too noisy or you are both busy watching a movie or a play.

History and the Origin of Dating

In the distant arid desert grows a wholesome fruit on date palms that nourishes everyone from the toughest athletes to the most delicate infants. Whether you fancy Sukkari, Saggae, Ajwa or Medjool, the variety of dates is as vast and diversified as the ocean. With over 500 kinds of dates, Sukkari is our most prized possession when we seek moist, sweet and caramel-like flavour, whereas Ajwa is the go to for its medicinal healing. Saggae dates are a recent addition for those who prefer a less sweet date than the Sukkari date, and for those who love a fibrous, dense yet moist date.

The origin of dates is unknown due to ancient cultivation but they are believed to have been cultivated in the Middle East region from around 6000 B.C. Fossil records show that the date palm has existed for at least 50 million years.

Since their discovery, dates have widely spread in many regions and were spread by Arabs to Spain, Italy, South West Asia and North Africa. Then they were further spread by Spaniards to Mexico and California.

The Date Palm

The date palm has separate male and female plants. Only fifty percent of seedlings will be female that are grown from seed but because they grow from seed their seedling plants are often of lower quality. Most industrial plantations use cuttings of heavily cropping cultivars. Medjool is the main cultivar that produces particularly high yields of large, sweet fruit. Plants grown from cuttings will fruit 2 to 3 years earlier than seedling plants.

The date palm productive life is limited to the years when the tree is smaller and the fruit is easier to harvest. Although the date palm is capable of living up to 100 years or more and can reach height between 15-30 metres. Their crown of green leaves grow between 3 to 6 metres in length.

The Date Pollination Method

In a natural setting, dates are pollinated by wind. However, in the commercial orchards they are pollinated manually. Natural pollination occurs with about an equal number of male and female plants. On the other hand, one male can pollinate up to 100 females. The male date palm is valued as a pollinator, this allows the farmers to use their resources for many more fruit producing female plants. Some farmers do not even maintain any male plants as male flowers become available at local markets at pollination time. Manual pollination is carried out by skilled labourers using ladders, or in some areas such as Iraq or Saudi Arabia they climb the tree using a special climbing tool that wraps around the tree trunk and the farmers back to keep him attached to the trunk while climbing. Less often, the pollen may be blown onto the female flowers by a wind machine.

The Date Seed & How Dates Grow

Dates contain a single seed about 2-2.5 cm long and 6-8 mm thick. The type of fruit depends on the glucose, fructose and sucrose content. The seed of Sukkari is much larger than the seed of Saggae or Ajwa.

Dates grow in large clusters that develop beneath the leaves and can weigh as much as 40 pounds. Large trees will yield more than a 1,000 dates each year, although they do not all ripen at the same time so several harvests are required. In order to get fruit of marketable quality, the bunches of dates must be thinned and bagged or covered before ripening so that the remaining fruits grow larger and are protected from weather and pests such as birds.

The Stages of Date Ripening

Dates, as well as having different colours, tastes and textures throughout their ripening stages, they also have different names in Arabic for each stage.

Stages Weeks English Arabic Description

First Stage 1 week – Hababook – The dates are small round and light green with horizontal stripes.

Second Stage 5-17 weeks – Green Date Kimri – The dates become oval, greener and are bitter.

Third Stage 19-25 weeks – Red/Yellow Date Khalal – The next stage is the early ripening stage where the dates are yellow or red, have grown to their full size and taste crunchy but dry with a slight sweet taste.

This is where you would get a barhi date with a crunchy outer shell.

Fourth Stage 20-28 weeks – Wet Date Rutub – This stage the date is ripe, soft and moist. At this stage you are enjoying the delightful sukkari dates.

Final Stage 29 weeks – Dried Date Tamar – Final stage of ripening. At this stage you will find the saggae, ajwa and medjool date.

The last three stages of ripening are when the dates are picked, fumigated, cleaned, separated, packaged and then sold to the consumer. Barhi dates are the yellow clusters that are often found in grocery stores which are crispy and a bit astringent because they are in the Khalal stage. Once the crispy yellow flesh begins to soften, it sweetens and becomes a Rutub like our famous Sukkari Dates. Rutub require refrigeration to prolong this stage, before they transform to their final stage of a dried date. Saggae, although it is a dried date, is very soft and moist in comparison to other dried dates.

15 Tips for Dating Success

First dates can be nerve-racking and daunting. The desire to make the best impression can make getting through first dates a little difficult. This is normal for everyone. However, here are some of the most helpful first date tips that will make your first date a success.

1. Select the Right Venue

Your choice of venue says a lot about your personality and character. A bar, restaurant, or nightclub may show that you enjoy lively crowds. A day spent a parks or gardens may show that you enjoy nature and the outdoors. Or a museum or concert shows that you like the arts.

2. Make Preparations

Prior to your fist date, preparing a little will help you avoid anxiety. If you met your date online, read through their profile to pick out a few interests that may help sustain the conversation. This gives you the chance to be cheerful and confident.

3. Dress Your Best

Where you go on your first date determines what you wear but be sure to give the best impression. Going out unkempt and sloppy will give a poor first impression that might decrease your chances of a second date.

4. Be Punctual

Time is a sensitive issue on first dates and you should always be punctual to avoid having your date wait on you. However, some unavoidable circumstances may arise. When you can’t avoid being late, make sure to keep your date updated via phone call or text and remember to apologize to your date after you arrive.

5. Drop Expectations

In case you have any preconceived expectations of what your date will be like, you may miss the chance to get to know him/her for what they truly are. Be clear on your expectations but remain open to any possibility.

6. Intend to Have Fun

Remember, the main goal of your date is to get things rolling. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself and get out to have fun on your date. Even if it’s not a romantic match, it’s fun meeting new people.

7. Be on Your Best Behavior

This sounds like advice for children, but plenty of adults show bad behavior, especially on dates. Being rude or behaving like a jerk is a guarantee that you’ll end up alone before the date ends. Using dirty or abusive words or forgetting your manners like talking with your mouth full makes a terrible first impression.

8. Listen Before Speaking

Learn to take turns while conversing. It is rude to interrupt when your date is speaking, especially when he or she is telling you about themselves. If your date is talking, listen graciously. However, do not hesitate to speak up when it’s your turn to speak.

9. Sustain the Conversation

Keep the discussion light on a first date and stay away from trouble topics like previous relationships, politics, or religion. Try add some humor into your conversation. Humor is often a great ice breaker.

10. Show Respect

On the first date, do not expect anything in return. Take it as a chance to get to know your date better. Respect your date by not putting them in compromising situations.

11. Be Open Minded

People are different, try to understand your date as much as possible. Do not shut them out and give up on a date a few minutes after first meeting them. Be interested in the likelihood of something truly cool happening between the two of you.

12. Make It Short

A perfect first date should be short. Maintaining such a short period creates the desire to expect more and probably set up a second date.

13. Do Not Grill

You may be tempted to ask your date a bunch of questions to get to know them better. However, get to know your date by working your questions into your conversation. Don’t act like a prosecutor and grill your date by firing off one question after another. This can wear people out make your date seem more like a job interview than a romantic occasion. Look for chances to get acquainted without grilling your date as if it’s an interrogation.

14. Be Creative

Be playful and make becoming acquainted with each other fun. Try to play a guessing game rather than asking direct questions. Attempt to connect with your date through cool and unusually activities to break the ice or create the right vibe.

15. Show Interest

After your date tells you a story, follow up with some comments or questions to demonstrate that you are amused or surprised and show that you are listening. Alternatively, after you tell a story, you can ask your date a basic question like “What you think about that?” to engage your date in conversation.

How to Make Great Success

In many ways blind dating is no different than any other type of dating. The basic elements of dating still exist but you do need to exercise more caution in a blind date. Like any other date you want a blind date to go well so that you can ensure yourself a second date. However, while it is important to exercise caution in all types of dating it’s even more important in blind dating. Another factor unique to blind dating is getting set up with a great date. While this may not always be in your hands there are some ways that you can take some initiative in this area.

Like any date the key to a blind date is setting yourself up for a second date. Arranging a fun date and being interesting to your date are two keys to achieving a second date. In making conversation on a blind date, it is important to take an interest in what your date has to say. Doing this will let them know that you are interested in getting to know them better. Also, try speaking about subjects that you really enjoy. This will make you not only sound more natural but will also make you sound more interesting.

Dressing to impress is also critical to a blind date. In meeting someone for the first time you will want to ensure that you make a good first impression. You don’t always know how much a blind date already knows about you but it doesn’t hurt to show up for the date looking as though you have put a great deal of effort into your appearance. You’re date will appreciate the effort and be flattered by your going out of your way to impress them.

One key factor to blind dating is to exercise caution in meeting your date. Even if you are being set up by a close friend you can’t be positive that they know the person they are setting you up with very well. It’s best to set up an initial meeting in a well lit and populated location. Never agree to meet someone you don’t know at a secluded location. While your blind date may be a wonderful person with no intentions of hurting you, it’s best to exercise caution on a blind date.

Another factor unique to the blind dating situation is getting yourself set up with a great date. You may have several friends that are interested in setting you up with a friend or relative whom they think is just perfect for you but try not to agree to go on a blind date that is set up by someone who doesn’t know you very well. If they don’t know you well, then don’t trust them to choose a date for you. However, if you have a friend who does know you very well, don’t hesitate to drop hints about what you are looking for in a date. Those who know you best are most likely to set you up with a compatible blind date.

Making an honest effort to have a good time on your date is another tip that can lead to a successful blind date. If you go into a blind date with the attitude that things won’t work out, you will most likely unconsciously put a damper on the date. Your date may sense your lack of enthusiasm and in turn won’t be inspired to put an effort into having a good time either.

Another tip for blind dating is to be sure to end the date appropriately. Many people may recommend that when going on a blind date you have a backup plan in place such as having a friend call you shortly after the date starts to give you an excuse to leave if things aren’t going well but doing this just isn’t right. Instead extend your blind date the same common courtesy that you would any other date and be willing to complete the entire date. If neither party is having a good time, it’s acceptable to end the date early and just agree that you weren’t compatible but don’t be too quick to give up on the date. Also, at the conclusion of the date be honest about your feelings towards your date. If things just didn’t work out, don’t be afraid to let them know instead of offering empty promises of future dates. However, if you truly enjoyed your date, let your partner know and take the opportunity to suggest a second date.

Bringing a friend along is another tip for blind dating. This is helpful for a couple of reasons. First if your blind date had any malicious intentions towards you, having a friend along is likely to spoil his plan. Secondly a friend may be able to ease the tension and break the ice by getting the conversation started. While the addition of an extra person on a date may seem awkward, having them there can provide emotional spirit and an additional comfort level.

Even if the date is going well, another tip for blind dating is to end the date after 2-3 hours. This is an adequate amount of time for two people to get to know each other on a date and determine whether or not they would be interested in a second date. Blind dates that last longer than this often reach a point where the couple runs out of things to talk about and the date can stagnate leaving a negative feeling at the end of the date. Keeping the date short can help you to end the date on a positive note and will leave you with more to talk about on a second date.

Being yourself is important on any date but it’s critical on a blind date. A blind date deals with someone who does not know you so it’s important to give them a true sense of yourself on your date. You may get away with pretending to be something you are not on the first date but it may lead to trouble in future dates as your date realizes you were phoney on the first date.

Finally, treat your blind date with the same courtesy that you would any other date. You may not know the person you are dating but it is important to arrive on time, be polite and put an honest effort into the date. Your blind date is just as deserving of these courtesies as any other person you have dated. A blind date is no excuse to let your manners lapse and mistreat your date.

For the most part blind dating does not differ from any other dating situation. However, there are a few things unique to blind dating of which you should be aware. Most importantly it is critical that you not put yourself in danger by agreeing to meet a blind date in a secluded location. Another unique aspect of the blind date is that you are often set up by a friend or family member so you have the opportunity to learn what they think would be a suitable match for you. Beyond the specifics related to blind dating, the rules of regular dating still hold true. If you are polite, genuine, fun and interested in your date you will be likely to score a second date.

Importance of Expiry Date and Effective Date of Restructuring

In the case of merger and demerger, two dates are crucial, the “Appointed Date” and secondly the “Effective Date”. Corporate managers spend a lot of time to plan the exact timing of these dates. ‘Appointed Date’ is normally arranged to secure the interests & objects of the respective companies. And ‘Effective Date’ is finalized by High Court depends on upon filing of a final order of High Court with Registrar of Companies.

Importance of ‘Appointed Date’ & ‘Effective Date’:

Any scheme of compromise or arrangement should identify a date in the scheme itself as ‘Appointed Date’. This ‘appointed date’ is crucial for arriving at values of assets and liabilities appearing in the books of Accounts both for the purpose of the transfer to the Transferee company and also for arriving at the value of shares for the transferor and transferee company viz. exchange ratio. Generally, the first day of a month or the first day of a financial year is identified as the ‘appointed date’, though the Court has the discretion to decide any date as ‘transfer date’.

The ‘Effective Date’ on the other hand is the date on which the transferee company files the order of the High Court sanctioning the scheme with the Registrar of Companies for registration and when the order has so filed the amalgamation or arrangement becomes effective or having come into force from the ‘Appointed date’. The effective date is subsequent date and the company has no control over it.

Issues regarding ‘Appointed Date’ & ‘Effective Date’ and their effects on Various Aspects of Restructuring:

1. Identification of Assets & Liabilities of Transferor Company:
As per the requirements of Section 391 to 394 of the Companies Act, 1956 the Transferor company should identify and quantify the assets and liabilities which are sought to be transferred to the transferee company under merger or demerger. This identification & quantification of assets and liabilities should be done as on Appointed Date.

The details of such assets & liabilities may be annexed as a schedule to the scheme. This identification gives certainty to the scheme, as members of both the companies get a clear idea about what is going to be transferred?

2. Changes in the name/status of the company after Appointed Date:
There could be some changes in name, address or status of the company after the appointed date. Normally such changes do not affect the sanction of the scheme before High Court unless they adversely affect the rights & interests or obligations of the company and/or its members and creditors.

3. Accounting Treatment:
Normally the Transferee Company should, upon the Scheme coming into effect on effective date record the assets and liabilities of the Transferor Company vested in it pursuant to the Scheme, at the fair values thereof at the close of business of the day immediately preceding the Appointed Date.

4. Increase in share capital & Appointed Date:
The shares are allotted only after the scheme is sanctioned by the court and not before. Further, the increase of authorised share capital is always upon sanctioning of the scheme. Hence any objection to the scheme on the ground that on appointed date the share capital of the Transferee Company was not sufficient to give effect to the scheme cannot be sustained.

5. Nature of Business:
From the Appointed Date and till the Effective Date transferor company should act as a trustee of a transferee company.

The Transferor Companies should carry on all their respective business and activities and should be deemed to have held or stood possessed of and should hold and stand possessed all the said Assets for and on account of and in trust for the Transferee Company.

All the profits or income accruing or arising to the Transferor Companies or expenditure or losses arising or incurred by the Transferor Companies should for all purposes be treated and accrued as the profits and income or expenditure or losses of the Transferee Company, as the case may be.

The Transferor Companies should carry on their respective business activities with reasonable diligence, business prudence and should not alienate, charge, mortgage, encumber or otherwise deal with the said assets or any part thereof except in the ordinary course of business or pursuant to any pre-existing obligation undertaken by the Transferor Companies prior to the Appointed Date except with prior written consent of the Transferee Company.

The Transferor Companies should not, without prior written consent of the Transferee Company, undertake any new business.

The Transferor Companies should not, without prior written consent of the Transferee Company, take any major policy decisions in respect of the management of the Company and for the business of the Company and should not change their present capital structure.

6. Employee Transfer:
Normally in any merger/amalgamation, all employees of the Transferor Company in service on the Effective Date could become employees of the Transferee Company on such date without any break or interruption in service and on terms and conditions not less favorable than those subsisting with reference to the Transferor Company as on the effective date. The main object of transfer of any undertaking under the scheme is to see the continuance of business, at that undertaking, under the control of Transferee Company. So the transferor company should arrange to maintain the cadre and number in service on the effective date who are willing to get transferred to the transferee company

7. Declaration of Dividend: Transferee Company
Dividend declared by the transferee company, after the Appointed Date, is payable to members of the transferor company also. And this does not violate the provisions of section 205 of Companies Act, 1956. While it is true that unless court sanctions the scheme, it would not become effective, but once the court accords its sanction, it would become effective from the Appointed Date. So the shareholders of Transferor Company become shareholders of Transferee Company from ‘Appointed Date’ itself. Hence they are entitled to any dividend declared by Transferee Company after ‘Appointed Date’.